I’m playing catch up here.
I am beyond happy. My wonderful partner Matty asked me to marry him on May 4th.
We decided fairly early on in our relationship that we were going to eventually get married. We’ve been living together for about 5 of the 6 years we’ve been together and we own a home together. It was inevitable.
Recently Matty had told me that he wanted to beat our friends and be the first to get engaged. Fine by me. I had a look at some rings at a commercial jeweler but nothing seemed very me. I wanted something unique that wasn’t too glitzy or over the top. I really wanted a ring that I had seen on Instagram by Marina Antoniou.
Matt planned the whole engagement perfectly. We had organised to go out as a group with my ‘posse’ and their partners for a fancy dinner on the Sunday night before we left for overseas. Little did I know that Matt had actually coordinated the whole thing and asked everyone to play along. The restaurant that had been chosen was close to Swinburne Uni where we met, so before dinner Matt said that we would take a walk through the park where he first asked me out. His pretense was that he was going to take me there for our upcoming anniversary, but seeing as we would be overseas on the actual date we would stop by before dinner.
He was the perfect gentleman whilst I sooked about it being cold and dark and a long walk to the restaurant. Then he dropped to one knee and asked me to marry him. I, of course, cried and said how beautiful the ring was without actually saying yes until Matt told me to put it on because his knee was getting wet. Haha.
When we joined the rest of the group in the restaurant we celebrated with champagne and I was politely told that all my close friends and family knew about the intended proposal and had been keeping in secret for some time.
It was really nice to be able to celebrate with our friends when it happened and then to make the rounds to the parents on the way home from the restaurant.
The ring is absolutely beautiful and Matty was amazing to organise it all so wonderfully. I’m just so happy that I am going to spend the rest of my life with him. He’s perfect.
P.S. The ring is the one that I originally had my heart set on. It’s hand crafted by the wonderful Marina Antoniou who was an absolute gem throughout the whole process.
A few of my friends have recently split from their partners and after hearing about the things that just weren’t right about their relationships I thought about what makes my relationship work.
Firstly, after coming home and talking about some of the difficulties and oddities of other relationships Matty said something along the lines of ‘we’re so normal. I love you’. I suppose in this context normal means that we don’t have the dreaded drama that some other couples seem to have. We are both pretty respectful of each other. We tend to make decisions together, talk most things over and check with each other before we make plans. We also get that being in a relationship means you don’t have to be attached at the hip and that it’s good to do your own thing sometimes. You can be together without being together. Like right now for example, I’m typing this on the couch and Matty is sitting in front of me playing Need for Speed. Occasionally he makes a comment, or I do, but basically we’re just coexisting in the same space.
Most recently when one of my friends told me that her and her partner had split I told her the traditional “it’s for the best”, but seriously I meant it. If you’re in a relationship with someone who doesn’t get you, who tries to control you, who you just can’t make it work with, whatever the reason, then you’re better off. In each relationship you’re in you’re going to learn something. Take what you’ve learnt as a positive thing and move on. Your time with them was special but now it’s over. Use what you learnt to built an even better relationship with someone new.
I think that your partner should be your best friend. You’re allowed to fight, but you need to be able to make up too. You need to be able to be 100% you with them, and they need to accept it. No one is perfect, but you both need to love each other for who you are.
Of course I’m just speaking from personal experience. What I’m saying might be a load of bull to someone else.
In a perfect world everyone would be able to pair up with their perfect match, but in the real world sometimes it takes a bit of work. Not everything can be unicorns and puppies and rainbows y’know!